How to Battle Compassion Fatigue

Many counselors have a good understanding of how many counselees they can meet with in a week without facing overload. Some have a pre-determined limit on the number of people their schedule can handle. I occasionally face a schedule that feels overwhelming. Not only...

Advice For Strengthening Your Marriage with Your Pastor Husband

Now that the new year has begun, you see stores decorated for Valentine’s Day, with aisles filled with candy and cards. The month of February is here, bringing thoughts of love and romance. Perhaps you will go to dinner with your husband this month, just the two of...

A Letter to Pastors Who Are Fathers

To my pastor husband: I thank God for the work He has done in you. I am confident that He will complete the good work he began in you. Happy Father’s Day! It is appropriate to affirm God’s good work in men who seek to be godly fathers. If your husband is a pastor or...

Four Blessings of Being a Pastor’s Wife

There are so many benefits to the role of a pastor’s wife. I will discuss four categories of blessing: your marriage, your family, your local church, and the worldwide church. Let us consider God’s goodness to you and His work through you. For my article this month, I...

Pastors’ Wives: Reflect the Love of the Lord onto Others

We read so much about the love of God for His people and the love we should have for each other. May the Lord use these truths about genuine love in scripture to strengthen, encourage, and motivate you as you love others. February is the month when we think about...

Pastors Wives: Embrace Each Precious Person Who Comes Through Your Church Doors

The Sanctity of Life observance is an excellent opportunity to consider the uniqueness of each member of your congregation. As the pastor’s wife, you can influence your church to embrace each precious person who comes through your doors. You probably are familiar with...

A Look at Mary’s Example this Advent Season

As pastors' wives, we can learn from Mary this Christmas and grow in humility and confidence in God as we serve others. The focus at Christmas is the birth of our Savior, and rightly so. All the nativity scenes and Christmas performances remind us that the Son of God...

A Time For Thanksgiving

Direct your heart towards God’s gifts so that thanksgiving may overflow to your visitors as you serve them with a thankful heart. November is a month anticipated by many, as plans are made for family gatherings and feasting. Some would say that Thanksgiving is their...

Counseling Wives of Men in Ministry

The help given to women in ministry has a far-reaching impact because of the number of people who are under their care. “I have no one to talk to!” This plea for help grips the heart of any counselor. But in this case, the speaker was a woman who served alongside her...

A Counselor’s Conduct Matters

Recently, I heard a counselee say, “Sometimes I ask myself, what would Caroline do if she were in my place?” That statement made me realize that even though I want my listeners to focus on following Christ, they will look to me as a real-life example. Do you realize...
Help for the Counselor Who Feels Overwhelmed

Help for the Counselor Who Feels Overwhelmed

Recently a conversation with a friend ended with the question, “How do you handle meeting with so many women without getting overwhelmed?” This caring person became a friend because we have spent hours together talking through some very difficult issues in her life....

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Lessons Learned from a Fallen Pastor

Lessons Learned from a Fallen Pastor

Introduction (by Jim Newheiser) Recently, the BCC presented a blog about “Helping Adult Victims of Clergy Sexual Abuse,” authored by Caroline Newheiser along with an anonymous victim. A fallen pastor who read Caroline’s blog contacted me and wanted to tell his story...

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Helping Adult Victims of Clergy Sexual Abuse

Helping Adult Victims of Clergy Sexual Abuse

Recent news reports have revealed the sad reality of several adult women who were victims of sexual misconduct by a man in spiritual leadership. The following article offers suggestions for the counselor who has the opportunity to counsel women in similar...

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Is Accountability Too Intrusive?

Is Accountability Too Intrusive?

Have you ever wondered how involved a counselor should be in the life of a counselee? Have you ever thought, “It is fine to meet once a week, but I shouldn’t become more involved”? Do you ask yourself, “Am I being too nosy to ask my counselee to report on specific...

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