A Letter to Pastors Who Are Fathers

To my pastor husband: I thank God for the work He has done in you. I am confident that He will complete the good work he began in you. Happy Father’s Day! It is appropriate to affirm God’s good work in men who seek to be godly fathers. If your husband is a pastor or...

Four Blessings of Being a Pastor’s Wife

There are so many benefits to the role of a pastor’s wife. I will discuss four categories of blessing: your marriage, your family, your local church, and the worldwide church. Let us consider God’s goodness to you and His work through you. For my article this month, I...

Pastors’ Wives: Reflect the Love of the Lord onto Others

We read so much about the love of God for His people and the love we should have for each other. May the Lord use these truths about genuine love in scripture to strengthen, encourage, and motivate you as you love others. February is the month when we think about...

Pastors Wives: Embrace Each Precious Person Who Comes Through Your Church Doors

The Sanctity of Life observance is an excellent opportunity to consider the uniqueness of each member of your congregation. As the pastor’s wife, you can influence your church to embrace each precious person who comes through your doors. You probably are familiar with...

A Look at Mary’s Example this Advent Season

As pastors' wives, we can learn from Mary this Christmas and grow in humility and confidence in God as we serve others. The focus at Christmas is the birth of our Savior, and rightly so. All the nativity scenes and Christmas performances remind us that the Son of God...

A Time For Thanksgiving

Direct your heart towards God’s gifts so that thanksgiving may overflow to your visitors as you serve them with a thankful heart. November is a month anticipated by many, as plans are made for family gatherings and feasting. Some would say that Thanksgiving is their...

Counseling Wives of Men in Ministry

The help given to women in ministry has a far-reaching impact because of the number of people who are under their care. “I have no one to talk to!” This plea for help grips the heart of any counselor. But in this case, the speaker was a woman who served alongside her...

A Counselor’s Conduct Matters

Recently, I heard a counselee say, “Sometimes I ask myself, what would Caroline do if she were in my place?” That statement made me realize that even though I want my listeners to focus on following Christ, they will look to me as a real-life example. Do you realize...

Tips for Couples Who Help Couples

In a previous blog, I offered a list of four blessings to be found through couples counseling other couples. This blog provides tips on how to make team counseling operate smoothly. If only we could ask Priscilla and Aquila for their advice! They are known for...

How God Uses Couples to Help Couples

My husband and I share a counseling life: attending conferences, training counseling students, learning from each other’s cases, and counseling as a team.[1] Not every biblical counselor has an overlapping ministry with their spouse, but many do. For example, some...
How God Uses Couples to Help Couples

How God Uses Couples to Help Couples

My husband and I share a counseling life: attending conferences, training counseling students, learning from each other’s cases, and counseling as a team.[1] Not every biblical counselor has an overlapping ministry with their spouse, but many do. For example, some...

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A Counselor’s Conversation Matters

A Counselor’s Conversation Matters

“Oil and perfume make the heart glad, so a man’s counsel is sweet to his friend” (Proverbs 27:9). These beautiful words demonstrate the goal of the biblical counselor’s conversation with the counselee. In biblical times oil and perfume were luxurious gifts from a...

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Having Heroes Helps

Having Heroes Helps

The best counselors are always on the lookout for new blogs, podcasts, audio lectures, booklets, and books to recommend to counselees. So much has been written and said concerning typical and even atypical counseling problems. We start with the Bible, of course, the...

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A Counselor’s Character Matters

A Counselor’s Character Matters

Some readers of this blog have been counseling a long time; others are new to helping others. No matter how much experience we’ve had, it is good to think back to our beginning counseling classes where we learned the importance of the helper’s character. She should be...

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Reconciling Friendships After Conflict

Reconciling Friendships After Conflict

I nearly ruined a relationship with a counselee. I want to share the lessons I learned from my mistake and share a testimony of God’s grace to bring reconciliation.   All of us value the friendships which develop through...

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Help for the Counselor Who Feels Overwhelmed

Help for the Counselor Who Feels Overwhelmed

Recently a conversation with a friend ended with the question, “How do you handle meeting with so many women without getting overwhelmed?” This caring person became a friend because we have spent hours together talking through some very difficult issues in her life....

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Lessons Learned from a Fallen Pastor

Lessons Learned from a Fallen Pastor

Introduction (by Jim Newheiser) Recently, the BCC presented a blog about “Helping Adult Victims of Clergy Sexual Abuse,” authored by Caroline Newheiser along with an anonymous victim. A fallen pastor who read Caroline’s blog contacted me and wanted to tell his story...

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